Puzzle Description Suppressed:Click below to view spoilers
#1: Norma Dee (norm0908) on Dec 5, 2016
Neat puzzle. No doubt about it. You have your hands full.#2: Aldege Cholette (aldege) on Dec 6, 2016
Thx auntie Norma. Actually I think it's cool auntie Norma. There are times when I'll be feeding Paytyn and both Destyny and Chastydy are using me for a slide. Sometimes I'm feeding Paytyn and Chastydy wants to play Batman. So I use Paytyn's feet as guns and pretend I'm shooting at Chastydy while dodging stuff she shoots at me from her utility belt. It's fun and it let's me spend time with the three of them together. :)#3: Donna McFarland (jade8114) on Dec 6, 2016
That is way better than cool. I needed to here that good news about dads. Down in Georgia a man was given life plus 32 years yesterday, for leaving his 22 month old son in a car on a hot day. The boy died.#4: Tom O'Connell (sensei69) on Dec 6, 2016
I am so proud to know you and to see what type of father you have become.
agree with Donna and yes that was a horrid national story.#5: Lollipop (lollipop) on Dec 6, 2016
great solve pal
That was a nice little challenge and I loved the title. Batman, play structure, and baby feeder at the same time. Now it must be time to plow the driveway for some "me" time. You're an all-around guy, for sure.#6: Aldege Cholette (aldege) on Dec 6, 2016
Thx auntie Donna. I did not hear about that. It's just unbelievable that something like that could happen now. There is so much public awareness about this due to pass happenings,not to mention common sense alone. You have to be either a complete moron or high on something or perhaps homicidal to have this happen. Sorry to say it,but the poor child might be better off.#7: Teresa K (fasstar) on Dec 6, 2016
Thx uncle Sensei. I can imagine you were a great dad too pal. :)
Thx auntie Lollipop. No so far after that first snowfall no more accumulation has transpired. And I personally hope it stays that way. :)
That kind of multitasking looks fun. I so enjoy solving a puzzle about you and your little ones. They are so precious. :-)#8: Aldege Cholette (aldege) on Dec 6, 2016
It is a lot of fun auntie Teresa. Sometimes it becomes a problem though. There are times when they want daddy to play with them and I may be busy with other stuff or feeling tired and I have to say no. They don't always understand. Destyny is maturing and she seems to understand and handle it better than Chastydy does. I don't like to say no too much because the last thing I want is for them to think anything is more important to me than they are. I get accused by Niki of spoiling them but I don't think you can spoil them with love and attention. I think it boosts their confidence. They definitely are precious. I wish I could get Niki to post more of the pictures we have. Her ADHD and other mental issues prevent her from remembering or focusing and I get tired of reminding her after countless times. It's a shame cause there is so much more I could share with you guys that I know you would enjoy. :)#9: Jota (jota) on Dec 6, 2016
Cool Dad!#10: Aldege Cholette (aldege) on Dec 7, 2016
Thx auntie Jota. :)#11: Tom King (sgusa) on Dec 7, 2016
Kind've got that going here as well. Fun puzz!#12: Aldege Cholette (aldege) on Dec 7, 2016
Really uncle Sgusa. Care to explain. Glad you enjoyed the solve. :)#13: Claudia (clau_bolson) on Dec 9, 2016
Great puzzle Aldege! Why don't you post the pictures yourself?#14: Aldege Cholette (aldege) on Dec 10, 2016
Thx auntie Claudia. Well I wasn't going to say anything unless someone asked. If Niki reads this comment she may be embarrassed and go postal on me. Part of Niki's mental issues is extreme jealousy. It is not something she can control and she takes medication and is seeing a therapist. The only thing I can do on my computer is play solitaire and Webpbn. She has has put locks and passwords on everything else. I cannot watch T.V. unless it's with her or kids programs. I can't even watch sports or the sport news shows which I love so much. Basically anything that may have women in it is blocked from me. My car magazine subscriptions have to be gone thru by her so that she can take a black permanent marker to any pictures with women in it. If I'm driving and a woman crosses the street in front of me,we will get into a huge fight and she will cry for most of the day. I have never seen such a severe case of jealousy in my life. This is why I can't post the pictures myself because I'm not allowed on the internet. Why do I put up with it? For my girls. I try to keep peace in the house but trust me we fight a lot about it and I am seeing a therapist to help me deal with it. I won't leave my girls. I would rather suffer than break their hearts. They love their daddy so much I'm worried what it would do to them to not have daddy with them. :(#15: Norma Dee (norm0908) on Dec 10, 2016
I am sitting here with tears in my eyes because I don't have a way to help or even any words that would help. There must be a reason why you can't get custody of your girls and leave, particularly since they are in such a mentally unhealthy environment. I know it's not enough, but I send you hugs and prayers.#16: Claudia (clau_bolson) on Dec 10, 2016
I am so sad to hear about it Aldege,#17: Teresa K (fasstar) on Dec 10, 2016
(As always, the language barrier doen's allow me to say the things I want to say in a proper way. Try Google translator:)
Espero que puedan encontrar la forma de resolverlo del mejor modo para las niñas, ya que no les hace bien crecer en ese ambiente. Pese a ser muy jóvenes, entienden que algo no está bien. Tampoco irte y dejaralas con la mamá sería la solución.
Por lo menos Niki reconoce que tiene un problema, ese es el primer paso, tal vez su terapista pueda establecer algo que le digas o hagas cuando ella está siendo irracional, para que se de cuenta.
Te mando todo mi apoyo y cariño desde 10.300 km de distancia (6500 millas), pese a que no te conozco personalmente, siento a toda la comunidad de webpbn muy cercana a mí.
Aldege, I'm so glad you are going to a therapist, as that's the only way to live in this kind of situation. Niki's pain must be awful to live in fear like that. I feel for both of you. I'm sending you arms-length hugs and heart-close prayers for peaceful resolution to your issues.#18: Tom O'Connell (sensei69) on Dec 11, 2016
:-(#19: Aldege Cholette (aldege) on Dec 11, 2016
Thank you all for understanding and caring. The situation is far worst than I can describe here. I often think I should write a book about it. Sure I could probably get custody of my girls but is that the best thing to do? I'm not sure. The girls love and need their mother and their brothers. My leaving would affect 6 lives adversely. I would rather suffer alone than destroy the family. The sad thing is I really love Niki. She can be a wonderful wife and mother at times. I understand the turmoil her jealousy causes her. I was there once as a teen but I quickly realized it wasn't worth the pain I was inflicting on myself and others. My greatest fear is that my daughters will develop the same issues as their mother. Thanks again for understanding gang and don't cry for me but please pray for my girls. Love Aldège. :)#20: marjorie rex (mamo) on Dec 11, 2016
I think you are doing the right thing in this difficult situation Aldege.#21: Norma Dee (norm0908) on Dec 11, 2016
It is a hopeful sign that you are both getting the help and/or support you need.
I will certainly pray for you and for Nikki. As Teresa said, I feel for both of you.
We're all glad you can be on pbn.
Those of us who live with someone who one minute can walk into a room and fill it with joy and light and then a short time later twist something you said into something totally different than what you meant and because of it throw out mean and hateful words to hurt you, can understand what Aldege is going through. But the hurtful things they say can never diminish your love for them.#22: Aldege Cholette (aldege) on Dec 13, 2016
Thx Marjorie. Yes thankfully I can be here to make puzzles and talk with my friends. I am literally almost never alone by myself. If it's not Niki at my side watching over me,it will be one of her sons left home to keep an eye out to make sure I don't watch anything I like on T.V. that could possibly have a woman on it. I can never go out on my own let's say even if I wanted to go to Tim Horton's for a coffee. I have to bring Niki with me. And bringing her with me always turns into a fight because if a woman happens to walk by I will be accused of staring or gawking at her even if I do everything possible not to notice her. I've been accused of gawking at women I didn't even see but she did and assumed I saw too. My poor girls and her boys too miss out on so much cause of this. We can never take them to a beach or amusement park. It's just not fair that they have to suffer from this as well. Hopefully someday with the therapy things will change,but I don't see it. Not in my life time. That's why sometimes I think it would be best for my girls if daddy could die soon in order for them to have a normal life. Thx again for understanding Marjorie.#23: Tom O'Connell (sensei69) on Dec 14, 2016
That's so true Norma.
knock off the dying ____p. Is Niki going to see this comments page? hugs my friend.#24: travis miller (bigblue) on Feb 9, 2017
yes, i agree with tom...knock off the dying sh--#25: Susan (Susan) on Jun 17, 2017
great puzzle :)
hope everything works out for the best for you, niki and your family :)
Aldege, I only know you from your puzzles, but my heart goes out to you and your family, and I am adding your names to several prayer lists I use. You saying that about dying, you know that is twisted up, don't you? You are the saving grace for your children, you dying would leave them with no other role model but Niki, and much as I'm sure she loves them too, she is clearly not a great example of how to live. I hope you also know that what are living with is abuse, call it what it is and know that your own twisted thinking is not an unusual result in such a situation. Your sense of self gets distorted by what you listen to every day, and thinking about dying as an escape is logical in a way but not right. The best thing you could do for your children is get them out of there, but that, of course, is easier said than done, especially if your confidence in your own judgement is eroded. Please work hard with your therapist to find a solution that allows all of you to be free of this. I can hear that you love your wife, your compassion is clear, but ask your therapist, if you haven't already, how likely it is that your wife's illness will be in remission before your children are grown, and what the impact on them is likely to be if you all stay there that long. It would feel like it is tearing you in two to leave her (I know because I've done it, I didn't even have children involved and it felt like I was being wrenched in pieces), but for the sake of your children I believe you really need to get them out of there. Not impulsively or suddenly, but with a carefully made plan you develop together with your therapist. And knowing it doesn't mean you don't love Niki, you clearly do. Unfortunately, all the love in the world isn't enough to fix this. You need to save your kids, and love your wife at a distance while she continues to get well at whatever pace she can. I hope you don't hate me for saying this, and I hope she doesn't read this and decide you can't be on here any more either. Lots of people would say it's no business of a stranger's and I should butt out. But I know how lonely it can be, how hard to find perspective, no less confidence in your own judgement, and courage to make an alternate plan. I figure if you are desperate enough to share this in a forum like this it's because you are looking (consciously or not) for help. Sometimes bystanders need to step in and lend a hand however they can. If this isn't to your liking, please forgive me and I will lay off and just continue to keep you and your whole family in my prayers. Sorry also if I've offended anyone else here. Love and light to you all. I'll stop now.#26: Susan (Susan) on Jun 17, 2017
BTW, this is a really nifty puzzle.#27: Tom O'Connell (sensei69) on Jun 18, 2017
I haven't seen 'nifty' use in a long time :)#28: Susan (Susan) on Jun 18, 2017
Maybe I use old time words cuz I'm old, haha.#29: Susan (Susan) on Jun 18, 2017 #30: Susan (Susan) on Jun 18, 2017
Goto next topic
You must register and log in to be able to participate in this discussion.